The domestic violence industry continues to be a profit making enterprise for law enforcement and domestic violence groups. This industry continues to support itself with millions of dollars of federal and state funding. Virtually every state has enacted special domestic violence laws to prosecute Men.
The rationale for this industry is to supposedly protect women from spousal and relationship abuse. But in reality, those who resort to calling the police and authorities instead of simply walking out of the relationship are using the domestic violence laws to enact revenge against their partners.
Feminist groups argue that vigilant enforcement of domestic violence laws keeps families and communities safe. However, there is absolutely no evidence that increased criminal prosecution of Men has curtailed violence between men and women.
The reality is that when two people live together and share an intimate relationship there will always be a fair amount of aggression that may bubble to the surface. In many of these arguments, women will be the first to initiate some physical contact by pushing, shoving, or slapping. After having resisted himself for years, a Man may finally defend himself and strike back.
Unfortunately, as the stronger sex, such self defense against a woman may result in a minor injury which is no more serious than the infliction of cumulative injuries that a Man suffers from repeated physical aggression by the woman. A woman will then exaggerate her injuries, run to the emergency room and make additional false claims of injuries to make her injury seem more serious.
When this happens the Man is almost always immediately arrested. Either the woman will call the police or some social worker or friend will call the police for her based on her exaggerated account of what happened. This is especially true if you live in a county with a domestic violence task force.
First, the Man must post bond after a humiliating arrest. This is expensive and can easily range for $2000-$5000 depending on whether the offense is charged as a misdemeanor or felony.
Second, you have to hire a lawyer which will cost you thousands of more dollars ($5000-50,000 depending on how long your case lasts and how serious it is). Defense lawyers also like this industry.
Third, if you plead guilty or no-contest simply to settle the matter and try to move on with your life, you will likely pay thousands of dollars worth of fines and restitution ($5000).
Fourth, you will likely be on probation for 3 years and have to pay probation fees of about $100/month ($3600 over three years).
Finally, the cost of the criminal conviction on your record and ability to get work or continue your employment is immeasurable. You may lose millions of dollars of earning power over your lifetime due to the negative repercussions of having the label of a “violent” person and “abuser”. Companies routinely conduct background checks and will screen you out of the final selection rounds if you have a criminal record.
The cost to Men of domestic violence prosecution is immeasurable. Putting aside the financial costs, which are substantial, the emotional, psychological and health costs to you are beyond calculation. Meanwhile, the district attorney, the women’s advocate groups and law enforcement have collected their tax from you and are waiting for their next “victim” client. Your life, future or well being is of no concern to them.
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